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soon i will write about this too..abhi feeling too lazy to write about it :P !!! divorce/separation impact over the child.... child psychology !!!

Women- Complicated yet so Simple...

Aurite.... !! I have been dealing with a bad relationship nowadays..its just not me, who is facing a bad relationship but few of my guy friends.. and when they tell their story... to my surprise all women behave same !! So...thinking about our relation..it clicked to my mind...let me write something about 'her'...about us...Women !! The aim of this post is to bring together a quite confusing subject of female psychology....

Female psychology is an amazing subject that is truly underrated...Does it ever feel like no matter what you say to a woman, you just can't say the right thing? lol.. it happens with me (ahem ! I mean I behave this way)

Do you ever have problems understanding what women are saying to you?

I am sure that most of the guys around always wished they had a guide to understand women. It would have made their life SOOOOO... much simpler.

I know women behave silly...cause they are this way...but not dumb !!! Because if there's one thing that's guaranteed, there's never a dull moment in a conversation with a woman. But if guys don't know how to handle yourself, it can also be a real challenge, and that's what kills the fun for most guys.

I keep on watching/receiving number of mails, videos making useless..stupid efforts to summarize women behavior, but that isn't a WOMEN... recently I came across this funny interpretations of what women are saying, and then what she really means.... 

"FINE": This is the word women use to end an argument when they feel they are right and you need to shut up. Never use "fine" to describe how a woman looks. This will cause you to have one of "those" arguments. 

"FIVE MINUTES": This is half an hour. It is equivalent to the five minutes that your football game is going to last before you pay attention to her again, so it's usually an even trade. 

"NOTHING": This means "something" and you should be on your toes. "Nothing" is usually used to describe the feeling a woman has of wanting to turn you inside out, upside down, and backwards. "Nothing" usually signifies an argument that will last "Five Minutes" and will end with the word "Fine". 

"GO AHEAD" (With Raised Eyebrows): This is a dare. One that will result in a woman getting upset over "Nothing" and will end with the word "Fine". 

"GO AHEAD" (Normal Eyebrows): This means "I give up" or "do what you want because I don't care". You will get a "Raised Eyebrow Go Ahead" in just a few minutes, followed by "Nothing" and "Fine", and she will talk to you in about "Five Minutes" when she cools off.... :P

Now that's a humorous take on how women can say one thing and mean something completely different. Well, when you're just meeting a woman for the first time, or in the early stages, you'll probably encounter a whole different set of challenges.

When a women says "I want a sensitive guy..." she really means "I want a guy who can be sensitive to MY feelings..." She does not want a guy who is sensitive in the way of breaking down in tears on a regular basis, or always "Sharing his feelings and heart" ... but duh ! most of you there don't understand this.. and blame us... !

While writing about this article I came across this one click here... and yeah ! I believe its kind of true... leaving few things behind which doesn't makes sense at all.. like when she asks 'do you love me...?' she wanna hear yes you do... and this is forever... or 'how much do you love me?' she wanna know what she means to you..she wanna hear 'she is your world...'...say it !!

Most of the men have beliefs that women have the Hots for them, they are irresistible to women, but the truth that lies is women like men, have differing tastes they, contrary to popular belief, don't chase after anything in pants, they may like your smile, your eyes or even you !! but they don't run after SEX....

The plain belief of guys -a girl has looked at 'em and have fallen into the trap, "she wants me"...or she actually happens to say hello,guys think that she wants to jump into bed with us....bullshit !!

The truth is that the woman glanced back at you thinking to herself "why is that moron staring at me".....If she does approach you and says hello, it usually means that she might be interested in you but would like to get to know a little bit more about you....duh !!

Men often get the wrong idea of what a girl wants because of the way that she dresses, because A woman is allowed to dress any way she pleases, if she is wearing a skin tight top with a plunging neckline and a short skirt with stockings and high-heeled shoes, It is her choice, it is not an open invitation for a night and to jump on her bones in bed !!!

Women go on a date to get to know you better, they want to learn more about you and find out what makes you tick, they want to find out if there could be a future with you.

The real truth about women is that they are human beings just like you men are, they love, they hate, they laugh, they cry, they talk, they listen they have feelings, women are not toys or play things to be used and abused, they are our equal in every way, what you as males fail to do is respect women for who they are not what they look like and the most important thing that you men need to get through your heads is that when a woman says no she means NO.

With what I have known about a women...being me and my fellow mates.. When a women shares, she is sharing... JUST LISTEN !! Don't interrupt...when we cry...pamper us...DON'T ARGUE with us...!

Men are visually stimulated. Women are too, they are just deeper and can sense sincerity, strength, honesty, and charm better than guys can.

Women know exactly what they want. It's imprinted in them at a very young age based on perceptions and feelings they had and felt toward certain individuals who were in their life. You might confuse a women, but when she demands her prince.. its like:

Resources - Money. Intelligence. Education. Can you provide and take care of her and the family.
Status - She wants to know people respect you.
Physical Strength - She wants to feel protected. You don't gotta be a body builder, but enough to protect her in your arms.
Emotionally Caring - She wants to know you care about people and can listen to problems (especially hers)...

Women are instinctual by nature. They have to be. If they weren't how else would they know what the baby wants? Their sole evolutionary purpose on this earth is to procreate. Now don't get me wrong, women bring much more to the table, but we cannot deny what Mother Nature intended.

I get irritated when guys say they can't understand women. They want to, they just keep trying to explain everything...instead of understanding.. Women are enough logical and sensible...

and I am sure God must be women... because she creates (leaving behind all the humor about women) !

A women is complicated yet so simple.. she just need to be understood... handled with care ! like we say 'fragile'... she is mature yet so kid... a kid at heart...but again...

"We Look For Someone That Understands Us Completely!!"

one of my fav track...

kayi chehre hai is dil ke... na jaane kon sa hai mera !!! :)

Break those walls...

"Once again, she’s alone in her room
Pondering about what she is to the world.
She wears a mask, to hide her pain"

Don’t believe for the mask I wear, I wear a thousand masks, masks that I’m afraid to take off and none of them is me. Pretending is an art that’s second nature with me. I say I am secure, that all is sunny and fine with me, within as well as without, that confidence is my name and attitude is my game, and I’m in command and that I need no one. But please never believe me.

What you see may be smooth, but my surface is my mask,which conceals everything. Beneath lies confusion, fear, and loneliness. But I don’t want anybody to know it. I am afraid telling my weakness, I am trembling. That’s why I frantically create a mask to hide behind.I know that world accepts me this way, they believe – that I am worth something, that I am lovable.

It’s the only thing that will assure me of what I can’t assure myself, that I’m really worth something. But I don’t tell you this. I’m afraid to. I’m afraid you’ll think less of me, that you’ll laugh. I’m afraid that deep-down I’m nothing and that you will see this and reject me.

So I play my game, I pretend, with a facade of assurance without, and a trembling child within. So begins the glittering but empty parade of Masks, and my life becomes a front. I tell you everything that’s really nothing, but what’s crying within me. Please listen carefully and try to hear what I am not saying, what I had like to be able to say, but what I never say.

I don’t like hiding. I want to stop playing this. I want to be genuine, I wanna be ME... ! but I need your help. You have got to hold out your hand even when that’s the last thing I seem to want. Only you can wipe away from my eyes the blank stare of the breathing dead.Its only you who can bring me into alive. Each time you are kind, loving and gentle, each time you try to understand because you really care, it encourages...my heart begins to grow wings –very small wings, but wings!

You alone can break down the wall behind which I tremble, I fear, you alone can remove my mask, you alone can release me from the shadow-world of panic, from my lonely prison.

Do not pass me by. I know It will not be easy for me and you.

The nearer you approach me the blinder I may strike back. I fight against the very thing I cry out for. But I am told that love is stronger than strong walls and in this lies my hope. Please try to beat down those walls with firm hands but with gentle hands for this child is very sensitive.

Who am I, you may wonder? I am someone you know very well. For I am a kid, you knew....

My first creation !

I looked at the clock ticking...I asked myself, what if I can turn back time?

This is my first creation...maybe when I was 12 or 13....This is a poem I’ve written years ago when I was alone.It’s not about anyone in particular, I don’t even know why it turned out this way, but nevertheless, I think it speaks me... :)

The drop that falls..from the window glass..
is a sorrowful pain,
to my blood vein... !
which grows every time to the sweetest rhyme...
which was just few years ago...
No one can understand, No one can know..
that what I feel...
After losing my GLEE !!!

Don't walk away..... !

You hurt me again.... !!!! You will never realize... but every time you do it... I cry waterfalls !! 

I still wonder that 'Will you still love me? Will you still love me even if I’m not the kind of person you wished I were? Will you still look into my eyes with warmth even if you saw my shadows? Will you still hold my hand even if you knew there will be times I had let you down?' For though I yearn to take care of you as I should, though I desire to love you with a love that never falters and fades, my knees tremble this very moment that you hold me in your arms.

Sometimes I had be silent and I might bore you. I may not laugh at your jokes, and you may not understand the spell that’s enshrouding me. Sometimes I had get troubled and I had fail to put into words what the hell it is that troubles me

Sometimes I had get moody and I might not enjoy the things you had like us to do together. Sometimes I had lose my temper and I had no longer act like the fine person who stands before you today.

Sometimes I had get touchy and I had get easily hurt. And no matter how mature I try to be, at times I had act in childish ways. I had demand things I shouldn’t, I had say things I shouldn’t say. And no matter how much I desire to protect you and make you happy, sometimes I had be the one who had cause you the most pain. But I still love you.... from the depth of my soul ! maybe I could never explain it... or maybe you will never know... how much I love you !

"It’s been a while… I should say,

But still feels like yesterday…

When you held my hand and touched my face,

When you hugged me close in a warm embrace…

I miss our talks and our moments together,

The special times we thought would last forever…

But now you’re gone and I’m left feeling blue,

Can’t deny the fact that I’m missing you…

But as a tear falls from the corner of my eye,

I know I have to stop believing this lie…

Wherever you are, I hope you feel it too,

And know that for always, I’ll miss you…"

I thought you said it would be you and me forever…I thought you said you had never leave...You said you had never stop loving me, and I believed you. But now when your walking away…I don’t know what went wrong... I wanna stop you, but I am not sure if I should…

There have been times in the past when you walked away from me but you always came back… But now it’s different… I have this hollow feeling in the pit of my stomach, that its getting over… And it hurts…it really hurts !!  To watch my baby walk away from me… But I know you will…

Now when your walking away… I felt no bitterness or regret as I am slowly watching you disappearing… What I felt was bittersweet longing of a love that once was, but never will be again… You don’t need me anymore… So I’m letting you go, and I’ll send all my love with you…but baby... one thing I always wanna tell you that...

I might act weird.. I might fuss about or maybe cry about.... but why don't you understand...